Totally random dispatches from a goofy lesbian Presbyterian who loves books, history, old-time radio and walking.
The Village Carpenter Mrs. Fruit's woodworking blog, filled with pretty pictures and words I've never heard of. I really don't know what she's talking about. There are also a few cute pics of our companion animals, because we're gay and it's a requirement.
I have no one to blame but myself. First, I told a friend on Saturday night that I never get sick. Nosiree. Not me. Well, that was a mistake. Second, I was in the nursery on Sunday morning, and while every child seemed to be healthy, we all know those little buggers carry around lethal bubonic-quality germs.
I was supposed to have driven home today to be with my family of origin, but I was feverish most of the day and lay on the couch sleeping on and off. Kari knows I'm sick when I'm not glued to the internet. She was sweet and perfectly solicitous, braving an icy rain to get me ginger ale and Zesta crackers.
Here I am looking ghastly, with both babies sticking close by me.
Christmas blessings and travelling mercies to those of you braving the weather and/or our transportation system(s).
This is from Saddleback's website. Would a pastor whose church barred any other minority group from church membership be invited to deliver the invocation at a government-sponsored event? Don't think so. Nor would those usually on the Left say "Get over it. It's no big deal. Try to see the other side of the issue." Is there another side--a justification--of discrimination?
I've heard it asked, "Isn't being homosexual something that a person is physically born with?" First of all, there are absolutely no facts to support this claim. From time to time studies have been reported in the news that seemed to indicate this, but every one of these studies has proven to be wrong. Secondly, even if some physical difference were discovered, it would be no excuse for sin. We know that some people can develop a stronger physical addiction to alcohol than others, but that's obviously no excuse for living an alcoholic lifestyle.
Finally, a word about being judgmental. It's not judgmental to say that what the Bible calls a sin is a sin, that's just telling the truth. Not being willing to talk to someone caught up in sin, or not believing that they can be forgiven, or thinking that you are not just as much in need of Jesus as they are ... that's being judgmental.
Because membership in a church is an outgrowth of accepting the Lordship and leadership of Jesus in one’s life, someone unwilling to repent of their homosexual lifestyle would not be accepted at a member at Saddleback Church. That does not mean they cannot attend church – we hope they do! God’s Word has the power to change our lives.
In the past 24 hours, I haveheard and/or seen the following:
Rick Warren comparing my loving relationship of ten years to pedophilia and incest.
Paul Weyrich, who died yesterday, in a 1995 Fresh Air interview referring to government's mandate to support "traditional family," consisting of a father, mother and children.
Pastor Jim Nicholls, the host of a radio show, "The Voice of Freedom," call homosexuality "a stench in Almighty God's nostril."
Since coming out (20 years ago!), I've been very tolerant and understanding when it comes to homophobes and their justifications for hating me. After all, I was born into a fundamentalist, evangelical milieu. My grandfather is a Holy Roller preacher. My mother's family are all Biblical literalists, except for the ones who tuned in and dropped out and should be in 12-step programs (but that's a different rant).
I've understood where the homophobes are coming from, theologically. I've also been compassionate toward the pain of closeted gays, posing as homophobes. Before I came out, I was a closet case who hated myself, and everyone around me, and most of all, that horrible, crushing, ubiquitous, indestructable attraction to the same sex.
Be forewarned: I'm still in a ranty mood and it's no more Ms. Nice Gay.
The following is from Savage Love podcast 109. I think Dan Savage gives great advice and here he was responding to a college student in California who was bummed about Prop 8 and wanted to know how to deal with people who supported it.
We're pissed! We're sick of this bullshit, we're sick of being the only minority group in this country who's treated this way. The only people whose rights are put up to a popular vote. Nobody else's civil rights are put up to popular votes. And precious few other vulnerable minority groups' rights would survive this process. So we're justifiably furious. And I think that Prop 8 in California was the last straw for a lot of us. People are drawing lines in the sand now and saying, you know what, I can't play patty-cake anymore with people who do not recognize my full citizenship in this country and who are attacking my civil rights. I'm just not going to play along anymore. And I'm not going to make nice anymore and "agree to disagree," like John McCain said to Ellen Degeneres on her show. This is not just a political issue. It's not just a little political difference. It's not just "paper or plastic." It's our right to live our lives, our right to full civil equality. It's not a fucking joke anymore and we've had it. Now what do you do with that feeling? You're going to have to work with people who voted for Prop 8. And you're going to have to go to school with them. Don't let that eat away at you. Don't look around school every day trying to ID your enemies. Live your life. Be out and vocal about your sexuality and about your position on Prop 8. One of the ways we win in the long run is [that] the more people get to know us, the more they hear these arguments about marriage, their minds change. Right now, vent, be angry, call them assholes, call them motherfuckers, swear that you'll never break bread with them, you'll never talk civilly to them, get it out of your system and then in a couple of months, when your a little bit chiller about it, seize the opportunity to talk with people who voted for Prop 8 and try to get them to side with us.
I came home from work yesterday and caught her with her tripod set up taking photos in the corner, with the lights turned low. She was practicing her bad-light photography because tomorrow she goes to Gettysburg, and in the presence of a curator, and probably wearing white gloves, she gets to handle Robert E. Lee's minie balls.
Not really. I couldn't resist a little lame and juvenile Civil War humor.
She gets to take measured drawings of Lee's medicine chest. Apparently, this must be a big deal, because she's beside herself with excitement. She even made a six-inch "reference ruler" so that she can figure out scale...and stuff.
I can't wait to hear whether she'll have to don a white lab coat.
I've seen very little coverage of this in the mainstream media, even in the Jewish pubs I read for work. Which is odd. I think it's ridiculous. This comes from beyondchron.org.
Mormons Baptize Jews Without their Consent
by Tommi Avicolli-Mecca, 2008-11-13
The arrogance and chutzpah of the Mormon church knows no bounds. Not only was this particular religious sect responsible (along with the Catholics and other conservative Christians) for the passage of Proposition 8, which banned gay marriage in the state of California. Now comes word that the Mormons are continuing to baptize Jewish Holocaust victims despite an agreement 13 years ago that they wouldn’t do it anymore.
Unbelievable as it sounds, Mormons actually baptize persons posthumously because in their way of thinking these folks might then have the chance to convert to their religion in the afterlife. Their slogan might well be, “If we don’t get you when you’re alive, we’ll get you when you’re dead.”
That’s why the Mormons have such an interest in genealogy. Every Mormon is encouraged to add the names of dead relatives to the church’s database so that those individuals can be baptized posthumously. In addition, they amass the names of non-Mormons throughout the world and place them in their database so that they can claim their souls as well.
It’s a disturbing practice. One that was denounced by Jews in the 90s when it was learned that the Mormons were gathering the names of Jewish Holocaust victims and baptizing them as their own. An accord was reached in 1995 between Jews and Mormons that the so-called Church of Jesus Christ of the Ladder Day Saints (or LDS, not to be confused with LSD) would stop baptizing dead Jews, including Holocaust victims.
Now comes word that the Mormons are not living up to their promise. Holocaust survivors announced on November 10 that they have cut off all talks with Mormons because they feel they are futile. They plan to bring the matter before the world court of opinion.
Bernard I. Kouchel, writing on the Jewishgen.org website, said, “We don't want to be saved, redeemed, forgiven, reincarnated, resurrected, or enraptured. We just want to be left alone... We find the idea of Jews being posthumously baptized into the Mormon church to be deeply offensive in the extreme and cannot express our disgust, outrage and revulsion at this practice in strong enough terms.”
I concur. I’m not Jewish, but I am atheist and queer. I do not want to be baptized by the Mormons, ever! I do not want any of my ancestors baptized by the Mormons. I do not want the Mormons to come anywhere near my family tree.
LDS members say that they are only following their beliefs. But reaching beyond the grave to drag unwilling souls into their rite of baptism seems a bit overboard even for a religion that believes that after his resurrection Jesus visited the Americas and hobnobbed with the same Native peoples his followers would later slaughter.
Maybe their church should be called LSD.
Tommi Avicolli Mecca is co-editor of Avanti Popolo: Italians Sailing Beyond Columbus, and editor of Smash the Church, Smash the State: The Early Years of Gay Liberation, which will be published next year by City Lights Books. His website: www.avicollimecca.com
I'm having a lovely, perfect Sunday morning. Why is it so wonderful? Because I'm not at church, that's why.
Although I am listening to the service on the radio, as I'm writing this.
I've written many, many times about my sense of burnout doing my church lady stuff. It's not that I do more than anyone else; that's definitely not the case. It's just that what I do is too much for me: it's a time-suck, energy-suck, and worst of all, a soul-suck. I'm in a severe state of spirit-depletion at the moment, worse in intensity than my cyclical burnouts.
Recent events might serve to give me the push I need to break ties, or at least loosen them.
Not long after an election that saw civil rights taken away by vote from American citizens in California, I went to deliver flowers to an elderly woman in a nursing home. Our time together was limited because she was headed to the chapel for afternoon services. Five minutes before we were to make our way down to the chapel, and part ways, she launched into her views on homosexuality. Our church recently ran bulletin announcements congratulating two of our members who had gone to California in September to get married---two men. These guys have been together nearly 40 years and had a commitment ceremony 15 years ago. Of course, that ceremony was not legally binding, so they raced out West to legalize their union.
The elderly woman said, "I know what my Bible says, and while it's good they come to church, to 'hear the truth,' I wouldn't fellowship with them." I was totally stunned by her admission that she wouldn't attend their church reception, even if she could.
I know she had this little "conversation" with me because she has heard that I, too, am as gay as a goose. And this isn't the first elderly woman I've visited who has made homophobic remarks. It's happened twice before, although I don't believe those women knew they were in the presence of a card-carrying dyke.
Another thing that's stuck in my craw: I happened on a public Facebook profile of a friend of a friend. She listed among her interests "hanging out with my gay friends." Further down, she said "I'm against gay marriage."
I have been royally pissed off about this. First, "gay friends?" She had to qualify that she has a separate set of friends, who are gay? What if she had written, "hanging out with my black friends?"
Second, she loves her gay friends so much, she wants to deny them their basic civil rights? Surprisingly, she's a young person.
Worst of all, but not surprisingly, she's a member of my church.
My church, my denomination, is currently in the process---again!---of formally debating whether "self-avowed, practicing unrepentant homosexuals" can be ordained as Ministers of Word and Sacrament and as Elders and Deacons. I'm getting really sick of this never-ending debate about whether I and my partner are fully human enough to serve the Church.
My days are definitely numbered. And, I'm happy about that.
Craft Mentality Amber and Tasha talk about kntting, sewing, cooking, reading and Project Runway.
Craftlit Billed as a "podcast for crafters who like to read." Heather is a writer, teacher, mom, blogger etc. with great insights. Podcast ends with a chapter or two from whatever book is currently featured.
Russell Brand Alas, old Russ resigned from the BBC so his podcasts are no longer available, but here's a link to his youtube website. He's smart, articulate and damn sexy. And he knows that "drugs is bad."
Savage Love Podcast Profane, disgusting, entertaining and very educational podcast based on Dan Savage's sex column. I've learned about some things I rather wish I hadn't, but can't stop listening. Mrs. Fruit refuses to partake----too many F-bombs.
Stephen Fry's Podgrams Writer, actor, comedian, filmmaker, Mac enthusiast and really interesting podcaster. The worst thing about this podcast is that he doesn't do it enough.
The Archers My current, hopeless addiction. A daily podcast of the world's longest running daily soap.